It was a typical fundamentalist message someone left for me at the church office yesterday. I’ve received many of such letters over the years, almost always unsigned. In essence they all say:
“Rev. Rigby you are leading your flock astray. God has told me to tell you to stop basing your message on what the world wants to hear. Base your message on God’s holy word. Remember that God reserves a special punishment for clergy who mislead.”
I can almost count on some such self-appointed prophetic condemnation whenever my name shows up in the paper or on the news. It is a hollow feeling to receive such notes and have no opportunity to respond, but I’ve also learned that such notes are usually written by people who are so accustomed to hiding in like-minded groups that they do not really wish for dialogue. They would rather use such “drive by prophecy” approaches. I’ve often wished I knew where to send a response to such letters, but the opportunity never seems to present itself, so I’ve decided to write down a response to this latest letter and send it to the winds.
To whoever left this note at my office:
I’m sorry that you did not have the courage to stay and discuss this issue. When you say that my message is an appeal to the flesh, I do not know if you are referring to my stance on gay marriage, or women’s reproductive health or immigration reform, or something else. But since you kept mentioning the word “flesh,” I assume you are referring to the issue of marriage equality. I would like to respond to you with the same honesty and bluntness you addressed me.
I am so sorry for you that you look at people’s bodies and do not consider their character. It is sad to me that you cannot feel your obligation to give others the same rights you claim for yourself. Do you really think that their sex is “of the flesh” and yours is not? While I have no doubt that you are sincere, I also believe you are the one who is deceived. I am not the one focused on these peoples’ flesh, you are. I am focused on their faithfulness, their hopes and their love. Those are some of the qualities Paul called “fruits of the spirit.” Everything you bring up against them is based on their flesh. I hope you will repent of your sin against your gay and lesbian brothers and sisters and return to Christ’s message of grace.
If you had even the slightest knowledge of Jesus, your only fear would be of judging and mistreating others. You would not turn other peoples’ struggle for equality into an imagined assault on your moral superiority. Instead, you would offer others the same grace that you yourself need as a fallible human being. But, you have appointed yourself their judge and jury. How can you possibly claim that the one who commanded us all not to judge, has now appointed you to do so?
Since you spoke a word of prophecy and quoted Revelation, allow me return the favor. God wants you to know your day is over. Whatever the Supreme Court decides, the war is over and you lost. Had God been on your side you would have won, but your anti-gay slander now takes its place beside other disgraced historical church movements that defended slavery, inquisitions and witch burnings.
Fundamentalists always say that they do not hate anyone, but God wants you to know when you try to take other people’s children, deny them insurance or demean their relationships as less than yours- you indeed hate them in any meaningful definition of that world.
It is not too late for you to leave your false religion of fear and judgment and return to Christ’s message of grace and love. We are all called into a new humanity where things like race and gender no longer define the worth of the human soul. Please know you can stop sitting in God’s judgment seat without the whole world going to hell.
Have a little faith.
Amen.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. Hope the individual who left the note gets to read it.
Thank you Paul. That was my secret hope. And also that they come by for a real conversation. As a former homophobe, I can certainly understand what things look like when we are afraid.
Jim, you are AMAZING. God Bless.
Amanda, thank you. I appreciate your tireless advocacy as well.
Anyone who leaves messages like the one you received does not “sign” the because they actually have no arguement except the falsely used scripture they extracted without reading the entire message of the Bible.
Thanks Ted. We all seem to live in silos now of like minded people. Facebook, in selecting common interests, also reinforces that natural tendency to seek out like minds, and avoid those who think differently.
Thanks, Jim, for being a voice of reason and for all you do to support social justice.
Thank you so much Regina. Good to hear from you.
Thank you, Jim.
Your welcome Nancy. It’s been an interesting conversation today.
Jim, the signature was at the beginning, right? God. No further signature required.
When we find the courage to listen to the Divine voice within, we recognize God does
not need us to be “the voice of God,” directing the lives of others.
Thank you for never failing to point us to the voice of love within, always revealing, always striving
on behalf of all beloved creation. I think we fight Love in order to have diverse human experiences
which become our life long teachers. Without our experiences, we couldn’t have empathy and compassion for others. Thanks to your experiences, you are a profoundly great teacher.
Ash
Thanks Ash.
Yet, I bet the last guy to hit your car in the grocery store parking lot didn’t leave a note at all. 🙂
Harold, You would only know that if you were that guy.
Drats. Busted.
Look, if you can tell one Honda Fit from another you deserved the fricking car.
Well said.
The letter you received is disheartening; but the act of “drive-by hate” doesn’t challenge as much as it validates your work and words. Though it must produce something like an ache of weariness to read it, it does affirm how important your voice and perspective, your labor and dedication are. The closing comment of your response: “Have a little faith” is wonderfully appropriate.
I was very reluctant to go to seminary because I had a [healthy, I think] suspicion of the institutional church and committing myself to working within it. So, I chose to get a post-graduate degree in peace and social justice. I did eventually go to seminary; but will always be grateful for this prior experience that helped me clarify how to function in the institution. Toward the end of that experience in the social justice program, I read these words from Elsa Tamez: “To believe in Jesus is not to believe things about Jesus; but to believe what Jesus believed.” If she is right, then the work of following Jesus is surely about laboring on behalf of human thriving, the flourishing of community, the overcoming of barriers, the abolishing of exclusion, the tearing down of walls, the healing of the separations that divide and wound.
Indeed, one can hope that the letter writer will have a little faith, not so much, as you clearly indicate in your response, faith in Jesus, as the faith of Jesus – the motivation to embrace, to include, to build up, to love.
Thank you for your continued unconditional love and courage during these trying times.I so wish the Peace of Christ-and God-who love us all no matter what could be with us all at all times.!
AbsGod blessolutely beautiful response to Fundamentalism; it brought tears to my eyes.
Thank you Rev. Bernier.
I guess that pretty much sums it up. Grace and love are not new concepts and it’s not too late for those operating out of fear and judgment to start practicing them.
Thank you Jeanne. Heal well.
Wonderful. Thanks so much for saying these things publicly.
This reminds me of a song about how people claiming to be Christians sometimes get in the way of Christ’s message. Sometimes, in the interest of being righteous, people forget that Jesus didn’t tell them to be right–he told them to love. He embraced people on the fringes of society, people considered unclean or unlovable. We should challenge ourselves to do the same, not point the finger. This song sums it up I think:
http://m.youtube.com/index?&desktop_uri=%2F#/watch?v=rJXIugwiN7Q
Nikki, Wow. That’s wonderful. I’ll post it tomorrow. Thank you.